Inspirational Female Leaders Series #9~ Tarlon Khoubyari

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Tarlon Khoubyari is the founder + content creator for a platform called "Is Anyone Really Listening?"

She shares her insights on data, technology, beauty, and so much more. She's a proud plant mom who likes to consider data as a form of storytelling because of it's ability to bring people, backgrounds, and new perspectives to the table.

She founds her mentors by cold emailing people who inspired her and asking them for advice.

WHAT KIND OF PROBLEM IS YOUR COMPANY SOLVING?

My platform "Is Anyone Really Listening?" is aiming to be an authentic platform for women in technology or really anyone to gain insight on technology, social media, beauty, etc. Basically, I want to highlight the multifaceted person in all of us.

WHAT DID THOSE FIRST STEPS LOOK/FEEL LIKE? (FOR EXAMPLE: THE FIRST 6 MONTHS)

I’ve been very lucky to grow quickly. By grow I mean I am engaging with people on social media, other content creators, and been able to expand my platform. I launched in January and since then I think the biggest lesson I have learned is trusting myself and the work that I do. It’s not easy because when you’re your own boss it’s easy to get lost in what everyone else may think or what is considered to be quality. Trust yourself and remember that you can always go back to edit your work.

WHAT HAS BEEN THE BIGGEST CONTRIBUTION TO YOUR CAREER SUCCESS?


My support system. This may sound super cliche but if it weren’t for them to continue to push and inspire me I wouldn’t be where I am.

DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE FAILURE? WHAT LESSONS DID YOU LEARN?

My favorite failure would have to be my mental health setbacks. I think when dealing with mental health, it’s important to take some steps back to focus on your health. The lessons I learned were to put myself first sometimes and give myself the permission to do so. Also it’s okay to seek help when you need it and to also rely on your support system a little bit.

HOW DO YOU DEFINE LEADERSHIP? OR, WHAT DOES BEING A LEADER MEAN TO YOU?

Leadership, to me, more than a role or a title. We give power to these titles when really it’s just a word. Leadership is making sure everyone has a seat at the table and everyone is heard, understood, and empowered to do amazing work. Being a leader is a position that people shouldn’t take for granted because people are trusting you to guide. I think what makes a good leader is someone who is able to empower their team members or the people around them to do amazing work without them fearing failure. When people are empowered to do good, they will be good.

DO YOU HAVE A MENTOR? HOW DID YOU GO ABOUT ACQUIRING ONE?

I have a few for different reasons. Professional mentors have been from previous jobs or roles I’ve been in. Finding a mentor is a relationship building task. I spent the time to send cold emails to people that inspired me and through that organic conversation they guided me.

WHAT SHOULD WOMEN BE DOING MORE OF TO FOSTER LEADERSHIP SKILLS?

Support one another, help each other, and aim to work with other women. Also, seeking/receiving feedback is another big element. Being able to offer constructive criticism or knowledge share would encourage women to do the same.

HAVE YOU EVER FELT IMPOSTER SYNDROME, AND HOW DID YOU COMBAT IT?

YES YES YES. All the time. Whether it be my age, my gender, or based solely on ability. I always ask myself “Did I really deserve this? What if I fail? What if I’m not good enough?”. This added pressure we place on ourselves can be hard to overcome sometimes. I just try to tell myself “there is a reason why you’re here. If you don’t know something, it’s okay just learn and do better”.

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU'RE FEELING "OVERWHELMED"?

I take a step back from whatever I am doing if I find myself getting too overwhelmed. I am a big list maker and sometimes when I write things down it makes everything I need to do less intimidating. I take those moments to really go through the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. I ask myself “why am I feeling this way? What can I do right now in the next 10 minutes that can help me?” and try to stay proactive with whatever it is. Or just taking a break from it all.

WHAT IS ONE QUOTE YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE BY?

“I want to practice taking care of myself in such a way where I am not abusing myself. I can do this by taking ownership of what I do and who I do it with”. My therapist and I came up with this and it’s helped me ever since.

What are you reading right now?

Crushing It by Gary Vee. Everyone, get it. RIGHT NOW.

IF YOU HAD ONE TIP OR LIFE ADVICE, OR MANTRA TO SHARE, WHAT WOULD IT BE? 

Be intentional in everything you do and with everyone you do it with.

ANYTHING ELSE YOU'D LIKE TO INCLUDE: 

Just a thank you for allowing me to be apart of this and if anyone is really listening or you feel like no one is, I am and you’re heard. 

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Keep in touch by following her on instagram @tkhoub or checkout her platform iamtarlonkhoubyari.com

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